How to Create a Healing Morning Routine During Your Breakup

“The mornings are the hardest” — says most people I speak to when it comes to recovering from a breakup.

For some, it’s about waking up and remembering their partner isn’t laying beside them; for others, it’s about waking up without that “good morning” text or feeling like their schedules are completely empty.

Morning routines are a great way to combat the overwhelm that can hit you like a ton of bricks.

So today I want to share with you some things I’ve been doing first thing in the morning that help me feel more anchored and grounded and ready to let the day unfold.

So whether you’ve tried morning routines before but they didn’t hit into your schedule or life, or you’re feeling ready to start a fresh routine, this is the place for you.

RIGHT WHEN YOU OPEN YOUR EYES —

Whisper to yourself a little prayer that welcomes the day. Something like, “Universe/Life, guide me on my path today as I trust you to bring into my day whatever it is I need in order to heal today,” is a simple and quick way to let yourself (and the Universe) know you aren’t doing this alone.

Not only does it not make you feel alone, it makes you more aware of when you are being guided; maybe you notice a friend calls you whom you haven’t spoken with in a while; or maybe someone recommends a book that suddenly makes you get this sense that it was the Universe speaking through that person.

I can’t tell you how a simple prayer or declaration primes my mind to seek the miracles in the day and stay open.

LET YOURSELF SLOWLY GET OUT OF BED —

I don’t know about you, but it’s not my natural default to wake up and take my time unravelling myself from my bed sheets.

I’m usually jumping out of bed and starting my day by rushing over to the coffee machine.

Maybe you wake up, quickly grab your phone, see that there’s no text from your ex, and then so begins the dread.

I get it, and I’ve been there.

But that’s why we’re here. Trying to rewire ourselves for a more pleasant, open morning and day to ourselves.

So tomorrow when you peel those eyes open, say your quick morning prayer, then slowly get out of bed, letting your body awaken after being in the somewhat same position for 5-7 hours.

PLANT YOUR FEET ON THE GROUND & VISUALIZE THIS —

If you’ve been having those mornings and your internal dialogue sounds like, “I just don’t know what to do,” and you feel lost, uncentered and maybe a little scared—then you’ll benefit from grounding yourself first thing once you wake up.

A reiki healer I used to see would talk to me about the importance of grounding, and that’s why I introduce this simple yet profound practice in my healing Meditation Course on Day 2.

Feel free to try this out right now as you read.

So just sit on the edge of your bed, plant both feet firmly on the ground, close your eyes and begin to imagine roots (like plant roots) connected to the soles of your feet; watch them travelling into the floor, and into the earth all the way to the centre of the earth, binding themselves around the centre.

Let yourself visualize this as you wish, and allow yourself to feel peace and calm, and a sense of knowing that you’re safe, secure, and protected right where you are.

STRETCH BEFORE COFFEE —

I know, you probably don’t feel like stretching in the morning, but this is the most transformative part of my new morning routine.

I’m not talking about 20 minutes while you wake the time go by wishing you could just taste your coffee; I simply mean 3-5 minutes just to wake the body up, and let the tension melt from your body.

This is not your full workout for the day or by any means a replacement of your full workout. This is simply tending to your body a few minutes in the morning.

What you will notice is that as the days pass, you’ll naturally stretch out (no pun intended) how long you stretch for. I currently do about 5-10 minutes every morning; and I do it not just for the routine, but because I’ve been enjoying it long enough to feel that the longer I sit and relax into each pose, I can feel the tension melting.

It has also made me realize that how I sleep makes me incredibly stiff in the morning.

1-MINUTE OF BREATHWORK

Breathwork does not have to be intimidating or something you have to do under water or in an ice bath (last year I did 30 days of Cold Showers at let me tell you…those things wake you up but I don’t necessarily recommend it).

You can plop yourself on the ground cross-legged or on a chair with your feet planted firmly, your hands on your knees or thighs, and breathe in and out through the nose for a count of 4, pausing at the top for a beat, and breathing out for a count of 4. Do this for one minute and you’ll feel much more balanced.

4:4 breathing is an amazing way to balance yourself, so if you’re feeling a little anxious and need to get more grounded, this is a practice you can do. If you feel tired or sluggish, this practice will bring you up a bit.

And it just takes one minute of focused breathing.

I love teaching my clients different breathwork exercises during our client sessions as well so if this intrigues, please feel free to reach out.

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Once you’ve finished your breathwork, you can joyfully walk to your coffee machine and brew your cup of Joe and let yourself hang out for a few more minutes.

Just be present with yourself and feel how much calmer and more settled just 7 or 8 minutes can do for your body.

Morning routines are meant to give us time to relax and get ready for the day before we start reacting to the world (checking emails, texts, scrolling social media).

And I have other things in my morning routine and some days I pick a handful and do those. The important thing is that you give yourself this time just to yourself to be present and tend to your mind, body and soul.

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If you are feeling called to start a morning routine and want daily healing messages to guide you through your breakup recovering, you’ll absolutely love my 21-Day Meditation Journey to Heal Yourself that gives you a new 10-15 minute meditation every single day with breathwork practices and guidance from me, your conscious breakup coach.