Okay, so you’ve been in a relationship that has seriously overstayed its welcome.

But, you know deep down you’re the reason the relationship is still going.

You might be thinking, “how could they have not ended things yet?”

But you’re also thinking, “how why haven't I left?”

For now, you’ve weighed the pros and cons. You know they’ve got their good qualities, but they also have the things that totally irk you.

And you’ve been together for quite a while, so does that mean this is what the rest of your life looks like together?

Even in your biggest moments of panic, you still can’t let go.

And here’s why.

It’s not because maybe things will change in the future.

It’s not because you know the feeling of a breakup and it sucks.

It’s not because your family will miss them if you leave.

It’s because:

you don’t believe you’ll find someone better than them.

It’s about your scarcity mindset.

You think they’re the best you can do, even if you’re not all that happy anymore. I can tell you right now that you were not put on this earth to live a mediocre life, with a mediocre relationship. Doing mediocre things.

But this is why people stay; they just don’t get that they deserve more than the cards they were handed.

It’s a load of horse poop.

But then again, I get it.

You’re just terrified there’s no one out there for you; you think you’re too old and the good ones are already taken.

(Guess what? I’ve heard people 28 to 58 say the exact same thing which tells me this limiting believe is just that…a limiting belief. It’s not a legit issue.)

Or maybe you think you’ve invested so much time in this person and no one else will be willing to handle your intense relationship quirks.

But really, you don’t believe you deserve the right person for you, so you are staying in a relationship that is only a 6/10 on a good day. These days, 60% is just above a failing grade in university, by the way.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure your relationship was good in the beginning; in fact, it was probably really freaking good.

But don’t stay because 5 years ago things were amazing.

Have the courage to leave a situation that isn’t working for you anymore, and have faith that the right person might be in your next phase in life. I’ve worked with a lot of people who courageously decided to leave a less-than-ideal relationship because they chose themselves first.

You deserve to choose yourself. You deserve to know that the person who is right for you is still to come.

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Hey there, I’m Nancy! I’m a Conscious Breakup Coach dedicated to giving you conscious breakup advice during, well—one of the hardest times of your life. Let me know if this blog resonated for you by leaving a comment!

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